Where To Find Good Books

People know I’m a Word Nerd, and they see my kids with books a lot, so I’m often asked:

Where do you find books to read?

The short answer: lots of places!

The Importance of Variety

In their podcast, Hank and John Green share that they consume content from a variety of sources so they expose themselves to opinions and culture and information that doesn’t always echo or validate their own mindset. This is good advice, and I try to apply it to my reading choices. Sure, I prefer young adult (because that’s what I’m learning to write) and happy stories, but reading a variety of books, including, non-fiction, gives me a wider perspective on my world.

Therefore, I seek out books in lots of different places.

For Adult Books

  • My Book Club: Every year, we choose books based on friend recommendations and reviews we’ve seen in the media. Granted, we are a homogeneous group, very white, middle-class, and educated, but we read a decent variety. I’ve read books I never would have because of my book club. It’s good to get out of your comfort zone, so thanks ladies.  😉  Click My Book Club Books to see a list of my favorite book club reads.

 

  • Goodreads Choice Awards 2015Goodreads: This site is an excellent resource for book lovers
    • The Goodreads Choice Awards highlight favorites of Goodreads users across several genres
    • The Goodreads data base makes recommendations based on books on your shelves or the current book you’re searching.
    • Your friends on Goodreads can recommend books to you.

 

 

  • Podcasts:  I follow several word nerdy podcasts, but my favorites are:
    • books outsideBooks on the Nightstand
    • Book Riot

 

  • Social Media:  on Facebook, Twitter, and/or Instagram, I follow:
    • Epic Reads
    • Book Riot
    • Publisher’s Feeds (Penguin/ Random House, HuffPost, etc.)
    • Here’s a link to my Twitter “books” list
    • Use #bookstagram to find bookish folks to follow on IG

 

For Kid Lit

  • Common Sense Media: My go to site/ app to learn about the content of books (and movies, games, etc) and find reading ideas.  They’ve got lists based on age, topic, genre.  Common Sense Media is a great resource for families.
  • Guys Read:  A site geared to guys of all ages.  They have book of the month selections and lists of suggestions like, “Scary”, “Funny”, and “At least one explosion”.  They’ve also put out some great short story collections.  Read my blog post on Guys Read here.
  • Nerdy Book Club: a great site for book reviews and articles on how to promote reading with kids.
  • Tweens Read Too: reviews and information on books that “middle schoolers will actually like”
  • The Eighth Day Kid Lit Author Sites, including:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Word Nerd Note:  One of my followers reminded me of these old fashioned places called libraries.  Perhaps you’ve heard of them?  You can actually get books for free at these places, as many as you want.  They also offer free Internet access and play an important role in literacy and connection in local communities.  Don’t forget to check them out!

Where do you go to learn about new books to read?  Please add your favorite places in the comments.  I’m going to turn this post into a resource page for the blog, and I’m happy to include your ideas!

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Does Prevaricate Mean?

I’m currently reading Finding Audrey, by Sophie Kinsella, a hilarious  YA contemporary about a girl combating anxiety disorder. Daughter highly recommended it, saying, “the mom in this book is JUST LIKE YOU!”  So, of course, I had to read it.

The mother in Finding Audrey is a somewhat hysterical woman, prone to excessive rants about screen time, who throws her son’s computer out the window.  I’m trying not to be insulted.  Rants?  Me?

Finding Audrey sent me to the Kindle dictionary for a few words, including prevaricate.  If you like to learn about words, visit Kathy’s Wondrous Words Wednesday meme.  You can add your own post and read others.

On to my entry.  Audrey’s friend Linus has challenged her to talk to a stranger in Starbucks.  Her response:

“He looks really busy…” I prevaricate.  “What about someone else?”

prevaricate \pri-ˈver-ə-ˌkāt\ verb from Latin praevaricatus, to act in collusion; literally, to straddle, from prae– + varicare to straddle, from varus bowlegged

Sounds appropriate for politicians and children in trouble.  😉

Word Nerd Workout

Use prevaricate in a sentence.  Note that it’s not the same as “lie” or “fib”… it’s more like quibbling or avoiding.

The boys prevaricated about who actually struck the window with the baseball.

Don’t forget to visit Kathy’s blog for more Wondrous Words.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Three Must Read Non-Fiction Books

I struggle with reading non-fiction. When I fall into bed at night and grab a book, I want entertainment. A compelling story. Some fascinating characters. Often when a non-fiction piece waits for me on the night stand, I just turn out the light and roll over.

To compensate, I’ve tried non-fiction on audio. I listen in the van or when I run. I’m convinced it slows my running pace and accentuates the fatigue in my quads, but hey, if I can get through some non-fiction that way, I’ll try.

All that said, I’m proud to report that I’ve finished three non-fiction books in the past few months, and I think you might like them too.

Yes, Please by Amy Poehler.  Memoir;  Audio-book

Yes PleaseIf you don’t know, Ms. Poehler is a comedienne who has worked on shows like Saturday Night Live and Parks and Recreation. She’s very funny, so her memoir isn’t exactly non-fiction drudgery. Mixed with her humor, Poehler shares thoughtful insights on:

  • self-acceptance, or “finding your currency”
  • the tension between motherhood and career
  • the importance of hard work

She’s brutally honest, and sometimes crass, but I respect her ideas; I even let daughter listen to a chapter (the one about the mean voice we all have in our head and how to get it to shut up.)

Poehler narrates her memoir for the audio-book and does a fantastic job. If you want funny with a little bit of thoughtful, Yes, Please is a good choice.

Favorite quotes:

~Good for her, not for me.

~The thing isn’t talking about the thing. The thing is DOING the thing.

~Don’t give your demon too much room in your head.

Warning: language and references to drugs and sex

On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft  by Stephen King.  Memoir/ Writing Craft.

On WritingKing’s style and humor make On Writing an easy read. The first section covers King’s development as a writer; it’s a mini autobiography with a focus on writing, and it’s interesting.

In the second section, King offers tips for writing well, like: omit needless words, dialog tags, and adverbs.  He shares his writing process: write the first draft fast, door closed, then use the second draft to bring out theme and symbolism.  His commentary on outlining intrigued me. I love structure, but King warns that too much plotting can stifle creative flow. I’m planning on using KM Weiland’s loose “index card” outlining method for my next project.  Above all else, King upholds the importance of story:

None of the bells and whistles are about story, all right?  Only story is about story.  (Are you tired of hearing that yet?  I hope not, ’cause I’m not even close to getting tired of saying it.)

The third section describes a serious accident that nearly killed King. He says, “…it occurs to me that I have nearly been killed by a character right out of my own novels. It’s almost funny.”

On Writing is a must read for any writer or fan of his fiction. It won’t take long, and you’ll be inspired.
Favorite quotes: too many to count.  See this post and:

…perhaps the best of [On Writing] is a permission slip: you can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.

The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us by Nicolas Carr. Technology. Audio

The Glass Cage pbk mech.inddThis is by far the most “non-fiction like” of all my picks. The Glass Cage explores technology and its effect on our lives. Carr raises several good points about the dangers of depending too much on tech, including:

  • Using our brains less, and therefore losing skills, tacit knowledge, problem solving ability, and memory
  • Losing sensory interaction with our environment, experiencing a narrow perception of the world
  • Making ourselves susceptible to the agendas of the people and/or companies designing the apps and algorithms we use

Carr cites many studies to back up his warnings, and at times, his writing is dull and repetitive. Also, The Glass Cage can be frightening and is best read in small bits so you don’t get too depressed and decide to pitch your iPhone out the door. But despite these issues, I recommend The Glass Cage for the serious concerns it raises.

I enjoy technology, but want a sharp mind.  Because of The Glass Cage, I’m consciously keeping my tech where it’s supposed to be: in the co-pilot seat.

I started listening to this on audiobook and had to switch to paperback. The audio brought on involuntary napping.

Favorite quote:

One of the great ironies of our time is that even as scientists discover more about the essential roles that physical action and sensory perception play in the development of our thoughts, memories, and skills, we’re spending less time acting in the world and more time living and working through the abstract medium of the computer screen. We’re disembodying ourselves, imposing sensory constraints on our existence.

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Can you recommend some good non fiction titles?

Thanks for stopping by!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who I Am Project: Mom’s Words of Wisdom

I’m trying something new in 2016 for the “Diary” part of this blog.  Each month, Dana from KissMyList.com will give a prompt for a virtual scrapbook entry that tells a story about Who I Am.  If you’d like to join, see Dana’s Tell Your Story post.   This month’s prompt asked participants to write about their childhood. 

When my mom dispensed wisdom, it usually came like a slap: strong and direct, with a bit of sting.

The first time I remember her advice-giving, I was about six. We were living in Milwaukee, a few blocks away from my grandmother. Mom had just been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, and Dad had just left for a tour of duty in Korea. Of course, I didn’t know the adult stuff. I just knew I saw my grandmother more and had these new people called cousins in my life.

The event that prompted Mom’s advice was ordinary enough: a walk home from school. It felt like an odyssey back then, but it was just four blocks. I wore my red coat with the fur-lined hood that Aunt Kathy gave me, and probably hideous plaid pants that everyone loved in the ‘70s. I walked with my best friend on one side, and on the other, a girl who was friends with both of us but whom I regarded with caution. She’d tossed my shoes into a puddle the first week of kindergarten. Unfortunately, she lived near us, so we were stuck with her.

On this particular day, a first grader named Jimmy Galbraith walked ahead of us. He had curly dark hair, a crooked smile, and my hopeless devotion. Unfortunately, the girls with me knew this. I missed most of their conversation, daydreaming about Jimmy as I floated along the sidewalk twenty yards behind him.

After a block or so, shouting brought me crashing back to earth.

Untrustworthy Girl was yelling at Jimmy and his friends. They turned to look at us. She poked my shoulder. “She likes you! She likes you! Beat her up! Beat her up!”

My body burned crimson under my coat. I struggled to breathe, played off my tears as a reaction to the bitter wind blowing off Lake Michigan. Best Friend told Untrustworthy Girl to shut up.

Jimmy shook his head and turned away, continuing his walk home.

Sobs of humiliation threatened to burst out of every orifice in my head, but I stumbled on with lips pressed together and tears subdued until I got to my apartment. Once safe inside with Mom, I deteriorated into snot and tears. Mom was a good listener, but never a coddler. When I finished my story, she handed me a tissue and said, “I’m sorry this happened, but why in the world did you tell those girls? Next time, be more careful who you trust, and never tell anybody who you like.”

I remembered this advice when I was ten, and the principal’s daughter wanted blackmail material on me, and thirteen, when my friends insisted we play Truth or Dare.

Me and mom in 1973. Another fur lined hood!
Me and Mom in 1973. Another fur-lined hood!

Mom had more valuable wisdom as I grew up:

  • Always say good-bye and I love you; never part angry. (Meaning – you’d better kiss me goodnight and tell me you love me before you stomp off, daughter.)
  • Never put anything sensitive in a note; it might come back to haunt you. (Modern translation: Never say anything potentially offensive on social media; it will never go away.)
  • Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face. (In other words, don’t refuse to eat your lunch just because your friends didn’t save a space for you. They won’t care and you’ll just end up hungry.)

I had 25 years with my mom, enough time to store up plenty of her frank, and sometimes cynical, advice, but not enough time to understand the complex mix of strength, disappointment, and frustration caught inside a body wrecked by neurological disease.

Pneumonia, a side effect of her illness, stole her from me twenty years ago this month. I will be forever thankful that I was with her at the end. I told her I loved her, and we weren’t angry when we parted.

What were some defining moments from your childhood?

If you’d like to join this virtual scrapbook project, click the photo above to visit Dana’s blog and learn more.

Thanks for reading!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Inspiring Word for 2016

Some people like to choose a word at the turn of the year to give direction to the twelve months of opportunity that lie ahead.

I’m definitely one of those people.

Life is crazy, and without focus, we can become slaves to reaction. With four kids, a busy husband, and a creative passion that won’t lie down and be quiet, I’ve got to approach these hectic days of my life with intention, or else I just might lose them. More importantly, I might lose myself.

Last year, I chose:

My word for 2015
My word for 2015

I wanted to do less “multitasking” and more appreciating. I’ve gotten better, but honestly, there’s still plenty of room for progress. I could have used present again, but where’s the inspiration in that?

I’ll keep “present” tucked in my pocket, but I’m gonna add a new one. My people and I have something else to work on. There’s a disturbing trend in our household:  we complain.

  • We whine about the school system (We live in the poorest part of Virginia, and we do not have the programs and classes available in the rest of the state. NO AP classes at the high school. Don’t even say “technology club” to me.)
  • We grumble about the people who shop at Wal-Mart in their PJs.  (Seriously, full-on button-down flannel with sneakers.)
  • We speak ill of others. My children vent about kids at school who don’t want to work and who spend lunch “pantsing” each other. I get uptight about parents who don’t stop their kids from posting suggestive pictures on Instagram. (What is WRONG with that mother?)
  • I despair at the minutiae of my life, the endless pattern of laundry, scheduling, and meal prep that saps my energy. And I fuss about it.

Underlying these complaints is a spirit of superiority. We complain and pass judgement because somehow, we’re too important for Wal-Mart and laundry and kids struggling at school.

But we’re not. This sense of condescension goes against our faith. It promotes negativity. It drains energy.

Fortunately, I’ve got a solution: humility.

  • When I’m humble, I remember that some days I don’t have it all together and that I shouldn’t judge the lady in flannel.
  • When I’m humble, I recognize that all parents use different styles and my approach isn’t the only one that works.  I also recall the times I’ve stumbled as a parent and remind myself that we are all doing the best we can with what we’ve got.
  • When I’m humble, I realize my children need compassion as much as intellectual stimulation.
  • When I’m humble, I put the needs of others before me and stop spiraling down the negative path of self-pity.

So, here it is, the word for 2016:

Humble with rocks
My word for 2016

 

Word Nerd Note: I’ve picked the adjective.  The verb humble means:

  • to make (someone) feel less important or proud
  • to easily defeat (someone or something) in a way that is surprising or not expected

Yikes! See how quickly things can change with just a shift in part of speech? That is definitely not the humble I will embrace in 2016, and it’s a good reminder that things can get ugly, fast.

Speaking of “embrace”, my blogging buddy Dana chose that as her word for 2016.  Read more at her blog, Kiss My List.

What word would you choose to define your actions in 2016? Why?

Thanks for sharing!

Julia

 

 

Vocab from Stephen King: Anomie

Wondrous Words Wednesday

I just finished one of the few books by Stephen King that I will ever read:  On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft.  I don’t do horror, but I love writing.  With humor and an easy style, Mr. King dispenses sage advice from his years of success as a wordsmith.  On Writing has encouraged me to indulge my interest in the craft, to spend more time writing, less time fretting over the house.

If you feel you need permission to do all the reading and writing your little heart desires, however, consider it hereby granted by yours truly.

Thank you, Mr. King.  I’ll take it!  And there’s more.  He unwittingly validates Diary of a Word Nerd when he says:

…good writing consists of mastering the fundamentals (vocabulary, grammar, the elements of style) and then filling the third level of your toolbox with the right instruments.

And he taught me some vocabulary along the way.

Raymond Chandler may be recognized now as an important figure in twentieth-century American literature, an early voice describing the anomie of urban life in the years after WW II, but there are plenty of critics who will reject such a judgement out of hand.

If you love reading, writing, and words, please visit Kathy’s Wondrous Words Wednesday meme at Bermuda Onion.  You can share your own post or learn new words from others.

Now, to this week’s word.

anomie \ˈa-nə-mē\ noun from the Greek a (without) + nomos law

  • social instability resulting from a breakdown of standards and values
  • personal unrest, alienation, and uncertainty that comes from a lack of purpose or ideals

[via Merriam Webster]

Word Nerd Workout

Can you use anomie in a sentence?  Here’s my try:

Chester’s parents thought  a stint in the military would shake him of his anomie. 

And, if you like Stephen King, or scribbling words on the page, I highly recommend On Writing.  

Writing Stephen King

 

Don’t forget to stop by Bermuda Onion for Wondrous Words Wednesday!

Julia