Why I enjoyed A Founding Mother, new historical fiction

book review graphic featuring the cover of A Founding Mother

I’m a huge fan of Stephanie Dray. I’ve enjoyed several of her historical fiction books. Dray has a knack for digging up details about interesting women in history and making their stories relevant to modern readers. As a child of Virginia, I know a lot about Thomas Jefferson and George Washington. I attended Mr. Jefferson’s University and worked at Washington’s Mount Vernon as a high school student! Dray’s upcoming release A Founding Mother: A Novel of Abigail Adams gave me the opportunity to learn more about how this notable founding mother from Massachusetts shaped our country at its birth.

The Premise

A Founding Mother takes readers to the revolutionary setting of Boston in the 1770s. While Abigail Adams birthed and raised four children amid riots and calls for revolution, her husband John rose from country lawyer to one of the men trying to birth a new nation.  Abigail demonstrated strength and wisdom during a harrowing time, and I enjoyed reading about her.

What I like

Dray and her co-author Laura Kamoie present Abigail’s story with engaging prose and just enough detail to hold reader interest without weighing down the narrative. I could relate to the woes and joys Abigail experienced as a mother. Physical and mental illness plagued her children, and yet she remained strong.  Throughout the novel, Dray and Kamoie highlight the importance of quiet work performed in the background.

But without mothers, not one sprout would grow — whether the fruit be a child or a nation. It is mothers who nourish and guide each shoot toward the light without knowing what may blossom and what may wither on the vine. Without knowing which children will live or die.

I also admired Abigail’s fortitude as a wife of an important statesman. Her character states:

Party factions were tearing our young nation apart and it fell to my husband to hold this union together, alone if must be. Well, I resolved he wouldn’t be alone. He’d have me. I didn’t know how much I could help by charming ladies in the parlor or smiling at Hypocrites like Jefferson. But for John and for the country, I was willing to do this and much more.

After reading about Founding Fathers like Alexander Hamilton and Benjamin Franklin, who had strained family relationships and inappropriate connections with women, it was encouraging to learn about the faithful lifelong partnership shared by John and Abigail Adams. John relied on his wife for advice and trusted her with managing their family and property, especially when we was gone for lengthy trips to Europe for his country.

Finally, I enjoy learning about history because it deepens my perspective. Present perils and conflicts feel less scary when I view them with a wider lens. Conflict has always been a part of our country. Early in the novel, John Adams says, “Had I to snap my fingers and make things right, I would. But America is a great, unwieldy body. Its progress must be slow.” That statement rang true in the revolution and still does today.

What I didn’t like

A Founding Mother covers most of Abigail’s adult life, and therefore is long. Towards the end, after John Adam’s term as president, it started to drag for me. Reading about the tragic lives of three of Abigail’s children also wore on me  as the novel wrapped up.

Recommendation

The publish date of May 5, 2026 times nicely with the celebration of America’s 250th birthday (see Word Nerd Word semi quincentennial)  as well as Mother’s Day. A Founding Mother would be a great gift for moms or history buffs and fans of strong women.

Have you read this book or any others by Dray and Kamoie? What did you think? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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What you should know about Walter Issacson’s biography of Franklin

Statue of Paul Revere in front of the Old North Church

A few years ago, I visited Boston for the first time. On the suggestion of my nephew, who has lived in Boston for several years, our family embarked on The Freedom Trail, a 2.5 path that winds through downtown. Stops along the trail have historical markers with info at several significant sites, including Paul Revere’s House and the Old North Church. The tour gave me new insight into the passion for liberty shared by many of the early American founders in Boston, and I wanted to learn more. Friends recommended Walter Issacson’s biography of Benjamin Franklin, and I finally read it this winter.

What I liked

In Benjamin Franklin: An American Life, Issacson creates a well researched portrait of Franklin, one of the few Founding Fathers who truly embraced democracy and a love for the “middling class.” I enjoyed learning how much Franklin valued the middle class and championed the rights of working people. Writes Issacson, “His focus tended to be on how ordinary issues affect everyday lives, and on how ordinary people could build a better society.”

“He saw middle class values as a source of social strength, not as something to be derided. His guiding principle was a “dislike of everything that tended to debase the spirit of the common people.”

Reading Franklin gave me deeper understanding of the tensions among the Founders. It reinforced the idea that there has always been conflict and partisanship in our country, even from its earliest days. Reflecting on the long standing tradition of debate in America gives me comfort during this time of dramatic division in our country.

What I didn’t like

I grew weary of the many long quotes from Franklin’s publications. Issacson aims to demonstrate Franklin’s wit and personality, but they started to feel tedious.

Also, as Franklin’s story went on, I become disenchanted with his personal decisions. This great leader dedicated more time to his country than to his own family. He spent many years abroad in England and France and left his wife and daughter in Boston. He developed surrogate families while living in Europe, fathered an illegitimate child, and had close relationships with several women, some of them much younger than him. Reading snippets of correspondence between Franklin and some of his lady friends often made me cringe. Even when his wife begged him to come home, and after she had a stroke, Franklin stayed away.

Like many great leaders, Franklin had significant flaws. Benjamin Franklin: An American Life offers yet another demonstration that very few people are capable of managing fame, career, and family well.

Recommendation

If you enjoy non-fiction and biography, especially books about historical figures, you would probably like Benjamin Franklin: An American Life. Learning more about one of America’s Founding Fathers feels appropriate as we close in on the 250th Anniversary of the beginning of our nation. However, with 493 pages of details, it requires a commitment. I would not recommend to people who don’t enjoy biographies.

Is there a book about an historical figure that you can recommend? Tell me about it in the comments.

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Clearing confusion about the popular word bespoke

what does bespoke mean

Lately, I’ve been hearing the word “bespoke” more often. It looks and sounds like a word I should know, and yet, I don’t. On a recent episode of one of my favorite podcasts about tech, Hard Fork, co-host Casey Newton said, in a discussion about AI:

Why am I using this bespoke start up business analysis when I can just plug these files into something already on my computer?

Most recently, bespoke appeared in the novel I just finished, Pachinko. A character referenced a rich man and his “bespoke suits.”

I found great relief last week when a friend who is an architect said he recently heard the word repeatedly during a presentation and felt the same way. What is this word and why does it keep popping up?

According to Merriam Webster, bespoke comes from the old English verb “bespeak,” first used in the 1500s to mean “to hire, engage, or claim beforehand.” With time, bespoke (which is the past participle of bespeak) came to be used as an adjective to describe things that are ordered before they are created. Hence, a “bespoke suit” is custom tailored.

Bespoke is also being used a lot more in the tech industry to refer to custom made software and hardware designed to suit a particular client’s needs. Bespoke software is flexible, easy to integrate, and provides room for growth. It gives businesses a competitive advantage. No wonder there’s so much “bespoke” buzz!

Merriam claims that the rise in use of bespoke could also be related to modern consumer preference for specially made items over those that are mass produced.

Now you know! Go out there and use your vocab with confidence!

What word are you hearing more often that you’d like to know more about? Tell me about it in the comments. You can also read my posts about contemporaneous and antithetical here.

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Valentine’s origins: not just pink hearts and chocolate

Valentine’s Day merch hit the shelves of Walmart before January 1st. By now, the marketing gods have bombarded us with all things pink and chocolate. Restaurants serve up special (overpriced) dinners, and jewelers suggest diamonds are the true gem of the month. My husband, who surprised me with a Valentine’s  proposal years ago, now scoffs at the “Hallmark Holiday.” I don’t buy the hype either, and when I dug into the history of February 14th, I found some surprisingly dark stories. The origins of Valentine’s Day are muddy, but most historians link the day to Roman martyrs of the 3th century and/or an ancient Roman fertility feast called Lupercalia.

Doesn’t exactly bring red roses to mind, does it?

St. Valentine the martyr

First, let’s look at St. Valentine. Actually, there were supposedly three St. Valentines, all of whom were martyred. I found the most consistent information about a priest named Valentine who lived in Rome during the 3rd Century AD. At the time, Emperor Claudius II ruled the land. Claudius decided that single men made better soldiers than those who were married and had families. So, Claudius banned all marriages and engagements. (Brilliant strategy for maintaining the Roman birth rate, no?)  Valentine saw the injustice (foolishness?) of the anti-marriage law and continued to marry couples in secret.

When Claudius II found out about Valentine’s activities, he ordered him jailed, clubbed to death, and beheaded. Supposedly, the martyr had befriended or fallen in love with his jailer’s daughter during his time in prison. Before his death, he wrote a note to this woman signed, “From your Valentine,” unknowingly launching a greeting card sentiment to last for centuries. Valentine was reportedly martyred on February 14, 270 AD. According to Lives of the Saints by Richard McBrien, the feast for Valentine was suppressed in the 1969 revision of the Roman Catholic church calendar, even though it is still celebrated in popular culture.

Roman feast of Lupercalia

Valentine’s Day could also have come about as a reaction to a Roman pagan celebration, Lupercalia. This fertility festival, held in the middle of February, honored Faunus, the Roman God of Agriculture. It also celebrated the founders of Rome, Romulus and Remus. According to History.com, the feast began with a sacrifice. The Luperci, an order of Roman priests, gathered at a cave where supposedly Romulus and Remus lived as infants under the care of a she wolf. (Lupus is Latin for wolf.) At the cave, the Luperci sacrificed a goat for fertility and a dog for purification. They skinned the goat and dipped strips of the hide in animal’s blood to anoint women and fields to promote fertility. History.com claims the women were “lightly slapped” with the strips. In an NPR story from 2011, Yale Religious Studies professor Noel Lenski claimed the women were whipped. Lenski also stated the feast involved a lot of drinking and nakedness. As part of Lupercalia, women put their names in a jar, and single men in their community picked a name. The two would be paired up for the days of the feast, or maybe even as long as a year.

Not surprisingly, the Roman Catholic church did not approve of Lupercalia. In 496 AD, Pope Gelasius I outlawed the Lupercalia festival and officially made February 14th Valentine’s Day. Yet the association with fertility and love remained.

Valentines through history

Later, during the Middle Ages, the holiday gained popularity in Europe as a celebration of love. The people of France and England recognized mid-February as the beginning of bird mating season. This led to an association between romance and February 14th. The British poet Geoffrey Chaucer immortalized Valentine’s Day as a celebration of love in his poem “Parliament of Fowls,” written in 1375. Here are the key lines:

Valentine cards and notes appeared shortly thereafter in the 1400s. The oldest known Valentine was written by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London. The British Library of London currently holds Charles’ poem in its manuscript collection.

Now that you know more about the history of this February holiday, will you still indulge in flowers and chocolate? Despite its dubious history, we can embrace modern, practical ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. First, indulge in self-love on February 14th, which might include staying off social media and using the time to do something that feeds your spirit. If you’d like to extend love to others, send notes to people you care about or who need a cheerful greeting.

How will you celebrate Valentine’s Day this year? Tell me in the comments!

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The Correspondent: a great read to cheer your soul

Going into the holidays, my book club chose something light and happy to read: The Correspondent by Virginia Evans. I happily turned to it after DNF-ing Butter. Upon listening to the first chapter of the audiobook, which is very well done, I breathed a sigh of relief, immediately taken in by Sybil Van Antwerp and her letters.

Premise

The Correspondent tells the story of Sybil Van Antwerp, retired lawyer, divorcee, lover of words and books. After a successful law career, Sybil lives a predictable life in her home by the water near Annapolis, MD. She doesn’t like to travel but instead sends her thoughts into the world via letter writing – to friends, family, and people she never has or will meet, including famous authors like Joan Didion and Anne Patchett. But when this master correspondent feels the effects of a vision impairment and starts getting disturbing letters from a troubled time in her past, she must confront feelings and truths she has long avoided.

What I like

I love Sybil. She is smart, funny, determined, flawed. Often, I laughed out loud at her wit. Sometimes I shook my head at her presumptions. I could relate to her love of the written word and the history it preserves. Also like Sybil, I often find it easier to express myself in letters or notes than in face-to-face conversations. Turns out we both have room to grow.

The Correspondent features many characters, but Evans does a nice job of developing and distinguishing them. The audiobook uses different voice actors for most characters, which also helped. One of my favorite supporting characters is Sybil’s best friend, who isn’t afraid to confront Sybil about her flaws. And her kind neighbor Theodore, a quiet man, yet determined in his own way.

As the chapters progress, we learn more about Sybil’s backstory, which gives meaning and depth to her present challenges. I loved how Sybil’s evolution shows how it is possible to change and embrace the world on new terms, even later in life.  As Sybil’s physical ability to see diminishes, her emotional ability to perceive expands, a very inspiring message indeed.

What I don’t like

The Correspondent is an epistolary novel, which means it’s in the form of letters. I enjoy this format. The structure quickly and efficiently conveys the voices of the different characters. I have enjoyed other epistolary novels, including Where’d You Go Bernadette, The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society, and The Last Days of Summer. (Click to see my reviews.) However, the format can feel contrived at times, with events or dialogue feeling forced into a letter. Also, since all information is given through letters, we miss some important scenes or details.

Recommendation

The Correspondent was a nominee for several Goodreads Choice Awards for 2025, including: Readers’ Favorite Fiction, Readers’ Favorite Debut Novel, Readers’ Favorite Audiobook.  My book club loved it, and so did I. Especially in the dark days of winter, when our societal issues feel overwhelming at times, The Correspondent is a lovely read, a testament to the ability of the human spirit to adapt and grow. I also highly recommend the audiobook.

Also, here’s the link to a NYT interview with debut author Virginia Evans.

Have you read an epistolary novel you’ve enjoyed? Tell us about it in the comments.

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What I liked about My Friends, even though it’s sad

I’m a huge fan of Fredrik Backman, starting a few years ago with A Man Called Ove. Backman, who is from Sweden, has such an eloquent style and a talent for capturing truths about life and human nature.

Premise

My Friends is a hero’s journey with a coming of age novel tucked inside. Backman gives us two unlikely companions, middle-aged Ted and teen Louisa, who accidentally find each other because of one painting. Immediately, if not awkwardly, they connect over a love for art and the people who create it. Backman, with his gorgeous writing and lyrical style, captures the importance of friendship and connection.

What I like

The characters in My Friends are flawed, foolish, and struggling, yet they are also hilarious and endearing. More than once while listening to the audiobook, I laughed out loud. Backman captures the naivete and rawness of youth. I enjoyed spending time with these 14 year olds. Every character in this book has faced some kind of challenge or dysfunction, and that is what binds them together and makes their stories so compelling.

Ted, a very careful and anxious character, while recalling a memory for Louisa, thinks this about himself: “He is scared of a sound he didn’t even experience. That’s the worst thing about having a vivid imagination. It works in all directions.” I’ve been cursed with a vivid imagination my entire life, and I could fully relate to this statement.

Backman also has a knack for expressing emotions in new and creative ways. I have decided to use his writing for a study of how to bring fresh techniques for conveying emotion into my own writing. I loved this quote about adolescence:

Our teenage years have to simultaneously be the brightest light and the darkest depths because that’s how we learn to figure out our horizons. 

For me, a sign that a book resonated with me is how many highlights or notes I have about it. For My Friends, I had plenty. Here’s a great one about parenthood:

Being a parent is so strange; all our children’s pain belongs to us, but so does their joy.

And here’s one that seems particularly relevant to the chaos of our world today:

A violent man is a sickness for all around him. Violence is a plague that spreads through everybody it comes into contact with.

I loved the themes of resilience, forgiveness, and putting up with the flaws of others in our lives.  As someone who loves and appreciates art, I enjoyed how My Friends highlights the importance of art in making life not just easier to endure, but also much more enjoyable.

What I don’t like

While there are happy moments and endings, the overall tone of My Friends is sad. It took me a while to finish because it wasn’t a book that made me want to get back to it. Yet, one of my friends said she couldn’t put it down because she loved the story so much.

Perhaps part of my reason for having trouble was that until well into the book, one of the main characters in the story is referred to as “The Artist” – this made him feel distant. 

Recommendation

Beartown, Fredrick Backman

I like Beartown and A Man Called Ove better. But, if you like art or friendship or quirky characters, My Friends is a worthwhile read. Be ready to laugh and cry.

Have you read any of Backman’s work? What do you like best and why? Tell us about it in the comments.

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