I Feel Bad vs. I Feel Badly

Since my post from last week (I Am Well vs. I Am Good) got such a great response, I’m going to tackle another adverb misconception. Once again, linking verbs are causing some confusion.

Have you ever heard someone say “I feel badly”? For example, “I feel badly that Cindy lost her dog.” I’m here, with help from Grammar Girl, to show that even though this is a nice sentiment, it’s not correct grammar.

The difference between action verbs and linking verbs.

To understand why you should say “I feel bad” for Cindy because she lost her dog, you need to know the difference between action and linking verbs.

Action verbs show action.

The dog smells his dinner. (The dog is sniffing his food.)
May I feel your sweater? (I want to touch the sweater with my fingers.)
The girl runs by every night. (The girl moves quickly down the street each night.)

Linking verbs show states of being or emotion. They link a subject to an adjective.

I am tired.
I feel sad.
She looks so happy!

Sense verbs (to taste, to feel, to smell, to hear) can be action verbs or linking verbs.

You can test to see if a sense verb is an action verb or a linking verb by replacing a form of “to be” for the verb in question. In most cases, any form of “to be” (am, are, was, is) will be a linking verb.

    • The soup smells good. —> The soup is good.  
      • The substitution works, and we know “smells” is a linking verb and good describes the state of the soup. The soup isn’t actually smelling anything.
    • The dog smells the skunk. —> The dog is the skunk.  
      • The substitution doesn’t work; a dog isn’t a skunk. Here, we know that the verb is an action verb; the dog is actively smelling something.

Let’s try this with the “I feel bad” dilemma.

  • I feel bad that you lost your dog. —> I am bad that you lost your dog.
    The substitution sounds a little funny, but we know that “bad” is describing an emotion or state of being. “Bad” is a predicate adjective describing “I”, and we understand that “I” feel sympathy for Cindy.

In “I feel badly” “badly” is an adverb describing the action verb “feel”. “I feel badly” indicates that “I” has a hard time physically exploring by touch. Usually, when people say, “I feel badly”, they aren’t trying to communicate that they are clumsy with their fingers. They are trying to express an emotion.

I would "feel bad" if I lost this dog. (Maybe... he's kinda high maintenance.)
I would “feel bad” if I lost this dog. (Maybe… he’s kinda high maintenance.)

Word Nerd Workout

Those “sense” verbs are tricky!  Test your Word Nerd prowess and decide if the verbs in the following examples are linking or action verbs.

  1. Roxie smells the treats in your pocket.
  2. I feel energetic this morning!
  3. You look sleepy today.
  4. Those shoes smell bad.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me today!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who I Am Project: He Loves Me

This is the February installment of the Who I Am Project, which prompted participants to describe people who we love and who love us.  For more on the Who I Am Project, visit Dana at Kissmylist.com. 

In my marriage, two roles play out.  One of us is confident, logical, unflappable.  The other is creative, sensitive, and most definitely flappable.

Guess which one I am?

In the past 26 years I’ve known my husband, I’ve seen him lose it on exactly three occasions.

  1. The wallpaper incident.  It was the “BC” era (before children) of marriage, the med school years.  We were living in and renovating an older townhouse in Richmond.  Once, when we were hanging wallpaper in the front room of the townhouse, all of the cutting, soaking, folding, and hanging sent him over the edge.  Maybe it was the glue.
  2. The first night home with the first-born.  Hubby took over baby duty that night so I could get a much-needed nap.  Sometime around 2:30 am, he appeared bedside, holding out a screaming bundle of flailing limbs.  “I can’t do this anymore.”  Literally.
  3. The devastating news.  When husband got word that a beloved partner and mentor in his medical practice had been diagnosed with cancer, he had to leave the room, requesting time to himself.

On the flip side, Mr. Wonderful has seen me seriously lose it at least three times EVERY YEAR.  During med school, my breakdowns usually came the night before his big exams.  (Sorry honey!)

A Meghan Trainor lyric comes to mind…

You’ve gotta know how to treat me like a lady, even when I’m acting crazy, tell me everything’s all right.

God has given me many blessings in this life, but my husband is truly His greatest gift.  Mr. Wonderful doesn’t give me flowers (any more), nor does he buy fancy gifts.  But he did sit through all the Twilight movies with me, and he has a knack for diffusing tense situations with his wit.  His greatest “love language” is his ability to share words of affirmation and support.

  • When I, the English major, decided to quit teaching and pursue PT school, even though my job was our only source of income during his medical training, he supported me.
  • When I, the English major, had to take five science and math classes to apply to PT school, he demonstrated outstanding patience and ability to tutor, especially when I crammed a year’s worth of physics into a nine week summer course.  We endured well over the annual quota of breakdowns during that challenge.
  • When I spent my mother’s last night on this earth next to her bed, holding her hand, he sat beside me and rubbed my back.  All night.
  • When I shared that I wanted to write a book and start a blog, he totally backed me up, even though he hates writing.

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Spending this many years under Mr. Wonderful’s calm influence has made me into a better person.  I’m less reactive.  I pause and try to communicate instead of immediately switching to “freak out status”.  Of course, sleep deprivation and the behavior of children still hold sway…

I’d like to think I’ve rubbed off on him a bit.  Maybe, under my influence, he’s more sensitive and introspective.  But, that’s his story to tell, not mine. 😉

How has a relationship in your life made you a better person?

 

Thanks for stopping by!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I Am Well” vs. “I Am Good”

Oldest son and I have a running debate.  Whenever I say, “How are you?”, he replies, “I’m well.” I cringe, every time, because I don’t think that’s correct grammar, even though people frequently say “I’m well”.  He knows it irks me, and that’s why he says it.  But I’ve done some research, and I’m here today to finally prove that my way is the right way.

What was my word of the year?  Humble?  😉

Anyway, here’s the language low-down, with help from Grammar Girl.

Action Verbs vs Linking Verbs

Most verbs describe an action:

  • run
  • talk
  • drive

Adverbs modify, or describe, action verbs:

  • run well
  • talk quietly
  • drive carefully

Usually, adverbs end in -ly, but sometimes they don’t, which makes things tricky.

There are special verbs called linking verbs that connect words.  The most common linking verbs come in a form of the verb “to be”, however other verbs like “look” and “become” count as linking verbs too.

  • She is pretty.  (“is” links she and pretty)
  • The sky is blue.  (“is” links sky and blue)
  • He looks tired.  (“looks” links he and tired)

If you can substitute some form of “to be” for the verb in a sentence, and the sentence still makes sense, it’s probably a linking verb.

The Confusing Part

Usually, an adjective is used after a linking verb to describe the noun in front of the verb.  (FYI, it’s called a predicate adjective.  Use that at the next party you go to.)  In the examples above, pretty, blue, and tired are all adjectives.

Complication: “well” can be an adverb OR a predicate adjective.

  • He runs well  (well = adverb, describing run)
  • I am well (well = predicate adjective describing I, but most resources say that in this case “well” means “healthy”, not “I’m having a great day.” )

The thing to remember is linking verbs describe emotions or states of being.  So, when someone asks, “How are you?”, the proper way to answer if you’re having a good day is “I am good”, because “good” is a predicate adjective describing I.  Any adjective will do here… happy, tired, fabulous, etc.  Just not “well”, unless you’ve spent a month in bed with the flu and now you’re healthy again.

So, you know what that means, son…

One more thing

Good is an adjective, used to describe a noun.  Therefore phrases like “He did good” or “She swam good” are not grammatically correct.  “Did” and “swam” are action verbs, and therefore they need an adverb to describe them.  Something like “fabulously” or “well” works here.  😉

Of course, most of the time where I live, when people say this, they are offering a compliment, and I try to treasure the praise and ignore the grammar.

Word Nerd Workout

In the phrase Nobody is perfect

  • what is the verb, and is it an action verb or a linking verb?
  • what part of speech is “perfect”

Also, which of these sentences are grammatically correct?

  1. I am dandy.
  2. I drive awesome.
  3. He looks sleepy.
  4. She did great!

Thanks for getting nerdy with me.

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Is A Cold Called A Cold?

Youngest son has a case of sore throat and sniffles this week.  Although his forehead didn’t feel warm, I took his temperature just to be sure.  No fever, but we did have an interesting conversation:

Me:  Your temperature is low, so you don’t have a fever.  That’s good news!  I think you just have a cold.

Son:  Well, if I have a cold, shouldn’t my temperature be low?  It’s a COLD, Mom.

This sparked a debate with Dr. Husband about the origin of the name “cold” for the symptoms (stuffy nose, sore throat, cough) caused by various viruses, including “rhinovirus”.  Dr. H. proposed that since compared to something like the flu, a cold doesn’t cause high temperatures, people called the illness “cold”.  I suggested that it was because people think they get colds from cold weather.

wondrous memeIf you like to learn about the origins of words, come visit the Word Nerd every Wednesday, and join in the Wondrous Words Wednesday meme over at Bermuda Onion.  Bloggers share new words they’ve learned or explore some they’re curious about.

I couldn’t find much information about the origin of the name “cold”, at least not from reputable sources.  The National Library of Medicine of the National Institutes of Health will tell you all about what causes colds (rhinovirus or many other viruses), how to treat a cold, and when to call a doctor.  As far as the name goes…

  • erkbiz.com (whatever that is) suggests that because cold causing viruses weren’t discovered until the 1950s, people called the illness a cold because they believed they caught the cold from cold weather.  Actually, it seems like people have colds more often in the winter because we are all inside more, and therefore transmission occurs more readily.
  • Yahoo Answers also links the name “cold” with increased incidence in cold weather.

Here’s the good news: a typical cold should resolve within a week.  If not, call your doctor.  And (soap box moment), antibiotics don’t work on viruses, so don’t ask for one.  Just drink lots of water, get rest, and take a shot of NyQuil if you need sleep.  (This is unofficial medical advice from Dr. Mom; I just fed Dr. Husband when he was in med school… I didn’t take his classes.  😉  )

Word Nerd Workout

Is there a word you know a funny origin story for, or is there one you’d like to know the origin of?  I’m always looking for post ideas.  🙂

Thanks for getting nerdy with me, and stay healthy!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are Emojis a Good Thing?

Did you know that the Oxford English Dictionary “word of the year” for 2015 wasn’t a word at all?!  It was the “Face with tears of joy” emoji.

LOL emoji

That’s not a word, people.

At first, when Dana shared this tidbit, I reacted with horror.  Little yellow faces can not adequately replace words, can they?  Surely the “laughed til I cried” emoji is a sad, insufficient substitute for “You’re hilarious!” or “Stop it, you’re killing me.”

But here’s the thing: we need language to share ideas and to understand each other.  With the advent of social media and ever shorter communication snippets, more of our interactions use abbreviated text.  Since we’re “talking” more often without the assistance of non-verbal cues (facial expressions, gestures, tone), we need something to help convey meaning or we’re going to have serious miscommunication issues.

Here’s an example.  In my house, we speak fluent sarcasm .  Unfortunately, sarcasm gets misinterpreted often enough in real life.  Without the company of facial expression or tone, satirical comments might come off as mean or rude in comments, texts, or emails.  In other words, my people and I need emojis.

Daughter might be the exception.  She manages to establish tone in her digital communication without the help of emojis, since her “dumb phone” can’t send or receive emoticons.  She uses caps lock and phrasing to get her point across.  For example:

MOM I’M DYING STOP IT

doesn’t need the angry face emoji to convey Daughter’s displeasure.  Or,

How bout no

doesn’t need the “smoke from the nostrils” face to communicate her stubborn refusal.

Soon, she’ll get a smart phone with emoticon capability, but I hope she won’t depend too much on those little expressive faces – her language is much funnier.  And that’s the danger – that too many emojis will ruin our drive to combine words in interesting ways.

So here’s where I stand: emojis can not and should not replace the variety and depth of language in communication, but they can assist with conveying meaning.  And, they’re fun.

My favorite emoji: anything with a wink.  That says, “I’m kidding,” just in case people don’t get my sarcasm.

wink emoji

And, my favorite new emoji with the latest iOS update?  The Word Nerd!

word nerd emoji

Unfortunately, gingers don’t get any love in the emoji population… Maybe with the next update.

Do you think Emojis are a good thing?  If you use them, what’s your favorite?

And if you’re interested in how social media is affecting our language, see this article from Buffer.com.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me! 😉

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Is A Neologism?

I was reading an article on how our language is evolving (more on that Friday), and this word kept popping up: neologism. I’d never seen it before, but it seemed like something I should know. Off to the dictionary I went!

If you like to learn new words, join Kathy’s Wondrous Words Wednesday meme where bloggers share new words or their favorites. You can write your own post or comment on someone else’s. It’s a great way to expand your vocabulary.

Back to today’s word:

Neologism \nē-ˈä-lə-ˌji-zəm\ noun, from French néo “new” + Greek logos “word”

 

Need to Google something, I mean search something?
Need to Google something, I mean search something?

Some examples of neologisms that are currently floating around in our language:

  • Google– to search for info on the Internet
  • Noob– someone new to an online community or game
  • Metrosexual – a man who spends a lot of time and money on his appearance (no one like that in my house, thanks)
  • Chilax – a slang term used to tell someone to calm down

And, this one is new to me and funny:

  • 404 – someone who is clueless, from the 404 error message when a file/document/page cannot be found.

To see more neologisms, visit 54 Great Examples of Modern Day Neologisms.

I find that teenagers are on the leading edge of neologisms – listen to them for a while and I’m sure you’ll pick up a few new words.

Word Nerd Workout

wondrous memeWhat neologism have you heard lately? Please share!

Don’t forget to visit Wondrous Words Wednesday.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

Julia