Notice what’s good in 2022

You get more of what you notice.

Too often, we notice and grumble about things that aren’t going well and people who annoy us. There are so many challenges in the world right now, I’m not going to bother to list them here. You already know them, and notice them, too readily. And unfortunately, the more we notice them, the grumpier we get. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle, but one we have the power to stop.

I recently read an opinion piece in The Washington Post entitled “21 Good things that happened in 2021.” Each year, The Post publishes a piece like this, increasing the list of good things according to the number of the year. A challenging exercise, but a worthwhile one. Because perhaps if we spend more time focusing on the good things happening out there, we won’t be as discouraged by the bad things.

Whether or not you are a Christian, this verse from Philippians offers useful advice:

Looking back on 2021

So let’s start by looking back at 2021 and taking notice of good things that happened. I won’t bore you with 21 good things from my life, but I will list a few for inspiration.

Good thing #1:  My new puppy, who is energetic and curious and forces me to stay focused on the present. When I take her for a walk, if I sink into spiraling thoughts, my puppy invariably starts pulling on her leash or eating something disgusting, as if she knows I need the cue to escape my unhelpful musings.

My puppy, Scout.
  • Good thing #2:  A true family vacation in July after months of limited travel and contact during the pandemic.
  • Good thing #3: Love and support from family and friends while I took care of my dying father.
  • Good thing #4: Finding jeans that fit. (Thank you, Stitch Fix!)

Prepping for 2022

Now it’s your turn. Think of 21 things from 2021, however big or small, that were good. I dare you to write them down. (Writing often helps me process and solidify ideas; it might do the same for you.) Perhaps this could be a New Year’s Eve activity to enjoy with friends and family, or a quiet meditation you practice by yourself. Just do it.

That’s the first step. Next, plan to make it a habit to notice the good in 2022. Think about the stories and media you consume, and commit to making sure you get plenty of positive news to balance out the snarky, sensational, and shocking. Find publications, websites, and influencers that focus on good and will guide you to do the same.

One suggestion: Reasons to Be Cheerful, a website founded by former Talking Heads lead man David Byrne. According to the site’s About page, “Reasons to be Cheerful is a non-profit editorial project that is tonic for tumultuous times. We tell stories that reveal that there are, in fact, a surprising number of reasons to feel cheerful. Many of these reasons come in the form of smart, proven, replicable solutions to the world’s most pressing problems. We’re here to tell you about some of them.”

I have signed up for the “Reasons to be Cheerful” newsletter so I can get positive stories about solutions in my inbox each week. I guard my email inbox like a Doberman, but I think this is a worthwhile addition.

Wishing you the very best for 2022, and most especially, encouraging you pay attention to what you notice, and make sure you notice the good.

Happy New Year!

Thanks for getting positive with me!

Rejoice in an imperfect holiday

I admit it, I’m a bit of a Scrooge. The holidays usually cause me more stress than joy, and I’ve been known to get cranky while wrapping. However, this year, I have a new December mantra:

Commercials, social media ads, and, quite frankly, the posts of our friends and loved ones, make us feel like our hearth should also have perfectly twinkling lights with fresh green garland winding between them.

Image of Christmas tree
Our puppy protected tree

However, at my house, we’ve had our fair share of burned out light strands, a left leaning Christmas tree, and stacks of junk mail sitting next to Nativity Scenes. Currently, our tree is protected by a 2 foot tall plastic doggie fence to keep our exuberant and curious puppy from taste testing the ornaments. Not the stuff of HGTV, but definitely the Tomiak reality right now. I could give hundreds of personal examples of holiday imperfection, but to keep this piece short, let’s focus on what’s really important to me and my family: food. So here we will examine culinary mishaps.

Every year at Thanksgiving and Christmas, our family makes Cherry Cheese Pie, a dessert my husband apparently loved as a child. His mother has passed down the recipe, a delectable concoction of graham cracker crust, fluffy white “goo”, and cherry pie filling (with vanilla and almond extract mixed in). We make the goo from Dream Whip, powdered sugar, and cream cheese. You’re getting the idea now.

Also every year, we manage to mess up this basic recipe. (I mean, you don’t even bake the pie! Just the crust for 8 minutes). One year, we used too many graham cracker crumbs, and the crust crumbled at serving. Another time, I forgot to put the powdered sugar in the “goo”, so it was disappointingly NOT sweet. This year, my daughter whipped up the best goo I’ve ever tasted, but she put so much in the pie crust, when she poured the cherry filling on top, the sticky garnet cherries and their syrup cascaded over the side of the pie dish and onto the counter. This made for a somewhat unattractive pie (no clean white goo border around the cherries) and complicated storage.

Cooking mishaps aren’t limited to cherry pie in my family. One Christmas, my mom attempted to make a grasshopper pie totally from scratch. She put Oreo cookies in the blender to crush for the chocolate crust, but sadly forgot to put the lid on the blender before hitting the power button. I was too young when this happened to remember the incident, but family lore says cookie crumbs flew throughout the kitchen and were still found weeks later. (Luckily, my current blender will not start unless the lid is on.)

My friend Rohna humbly shared some of her cooking catastrophes with me. Like the time she was pulling the aluminum foil pan of green bean casserole out of the oven. The pan had gotten flimsy with cooking, and the green beans and their sauce ended up all over the door of the oven and, unfortunately, in its hinges. Or when her mother dropped a glass dish of stuffing onto the floor.

My guess is you could add your own story, and I’d love to hear it. I’d also like to remind you that culinary disasters don’t matter. Life isn’t perfect, and anyone telling you otherwise is trying to sell something. My late father liked to say, “It all goes to the same stomach.” He said that when I complained about food on my dinner plate, but I’d like to repurpose the phrase here: No matter what the food we choose to make for our friends and loved ones looks like or tastes like, or even if you don’t get to eat it at all (no dressing with glass shards for me, thanks), the effort and love that go into creating the dish matter more than the final product. The time spent together matters more than cherry tinted goo.

So bring out your lopsided cakes and flat cookies, the smeared frosting and the burnt edges. We shouldn’t let stress or pie crust steal our joy this holiday season. As my pastor, Lon Tobin, said wisely last Sunday, “The first Christmas wasn’t perfect, and we shouldn’t expect ours to be either.”

Rejoice in the imperfections.

Tell me about YOUR culinary disasters in the comments. 🙂

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

Five fabulous Word Nerd gift ideas for 2021

Gifts cause me the most stress at Christmas. The idea of finding things to make so many different people happy taxes my already busy brain. This year, I’m trying a new strategy. I fully acknowledge, to myself and my family, that gifts cause me anxiety, and I’m just not going to give them too much significance. If I find a great gift for someone on my list, fantastic! If not, well that’s just how it’s going to be. Celebrating the birth of a savior should not make me panic.

If you, like me, struggle with the gift giving aspect of the holidays, here are five of my bookish and not so bookish favorite things from 2021 that might help you with your gift list!

Pony by RJ Palacio

Palacio wrote the lovely kidlit book Wonder, and this year she has published another gem. Here’s the blurb: Twelve-year-old Silas is awoken in the dead of night by three menacing horsemen who take his father away. Silas is left shaken, scared, and alone, except for the presence of his companion, Mittenwool . . . who happens to be a ghost. When a pony shows up at his door, Silas makes the courageous decision to leave his home and embark on a perilous journey to find his father. Along the way, he will face his fears to unlock the secrets of his past and explore the unfathomable mysteries of the world around him.

Pony is a fantastic quest story set in 1860 with suspense and supernatural elements. Silas is an unusual boy, and his story explores the delicate line between belief in the truth and acceptance of the unknown. It’s targeted at middle grade readers (8-12 years old), but I think anyone would enjoy this well written novel. I listened to the audiobook, which is done well, and I’m gifting several copies of this book.

Ten Thousand Tries by Amy Makechnie

Ten Thousand Tries by Amy Makechnie is another wonderful kidlit novel. The blurb: Twelve-year-old Golden Maroni is determined to channel his hero, soccer superstar Lionel Messi, and become captain of his soccer team and master of his eighth grade universe…especially since his home universe is spiraling out of orbit. Off the field, Golden’s dad, once a pro soccer player himself, is now battling ALS, a disease that attacks his muscles, leaving him less and less physically able to control his body every day. And while Mom says there’s no cure, Golden is convinced that his dad can beat this, just like any opponent, they just have to try. See my full review here.

The Guncle by Steven Rowley

If you are looking for something more on the adult side, I really enjoyed The Guncle by Steven Rowley. The blurb: From the bestselling author of Lily and the Octopus and The Editor comes a warm and deeply funny novel about a once-famous gay sitcom star whose unexpected family tragedy leaves him with his niece and nephew for the summer. The Guncle is a funny, thoughtful, and not too serious look at the grief process that includes a lot of ice cream. My full review is here.

Back and neck massager

Nope, this has nothing to do with words or books, but I LOVE my massager, the Resteck electric shiatsu back and neck massager. I can place it over any sore muscle, and the rotating knobs deliver much needed heat and relief to my trigger points and tight spots. This particular model comes with a travel bag and car charger! (After I demonstrated the glory of my massager at a book club meeting, several members purchased one.) Thank you Caroline for recommending this awesome tool!

Instant Pot

My mother in law gave me an Instant Pot for my birthday, and it is the best thing for a busy chef. You can use it as a slow cooker or a pressure cooker, and it’s a great way to cook up tasty one pot meals. When using the pressure cooker mode, the unit takes a while to build up pressure, so cooking time isn’t that much shorter than normal cooking. However cooking meat in the pressure cooker produces more tender and moist results compared to a crock pot. There is a safety valve on the top to let you know when all of the pressure is released, so I have never had any safety concerns. You can check out Instant Pot recipes I have tried on my Pinterest Instant Pot board.

Goodreads Choice Awards

The Goodreads Choice award winners are out for 2021, and this list is always a great place to find more book ideas. I was happy to see Andy Weir’s Project Hail Mary on the list – my boys, who love sci fi, enjoyed this book.

How about you? What have been some of your favorite things in 2021 that you would recommend gifting to others? Leave your suggestions in the comments.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

How to say “omicron”

Well, we’ve been wrestling with it all week – how to say “omicron”, the name given by the World Health Organization to the latest COVID “variant of concern“. The Word Nerd is here to tell you your options, as well as why the WHO chose this particular Greek letter.

Pronunciation of omicron

According to Merriam-Webster, omicron is the 15th letter in the Greek alphabet and can be pronounced one of two ways. Either ah-macron (which is supposedly the American pronunciation) or “oh-macron” which is supposedly the British. If you’d like to hear it for yourself, check out this You Tube video:

I think the British version sounds more fancy and refined, so I’m going with that, and leading with an “oh” sound. (I’m also the girl who has her SIRI voice set to a British man who I like to refer to as Watson, so take that into account.) The look of the letter is nothing special – your basic o.

Why is this variant named omicron?

The other thing I’ve been wondering is why the WHO chose omicron. As new variants have emerged, the WHO has worked its way through the Greek alphabet, starting with alpha and moving down the list. However, after Mu, the next two letters are Nu and Xi. According to the New York Times, WHO officials thought that Nu would be too easily confused with “new” and “Xi” is a common name in many countries and could create problems. For example, the top leader of China is Xi Jinping. So, they skipped to omicron.

What we know about omicron

We don’t know much yet except that the omicron variant is here and spreading. As of Dec 2, 2021, two cases have been found in the US and cases have also been found in several European countries and Australia. And of course South Africa. Scientists will need some time and data before they can make definitive statements. In the meantime, you can read about what is currently known in this NYT article, “Omicron: What Is Known — and Still Unknown“, posted Dec 2, 2021.

How do you choose to pronounce omicron, and how do you keep up to date on the science of COVID? I like to listen to podcasts like The Daily and read articles from reliable sources, however, as the media tends to emphasize negative news, I’m trying to keep myself informed without getting sucked into too much pessimistic reporting.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!

Prep your heart and mind for a positive Thanksgiving

Hi everyone! This week I will be busy cleaning, cooking, and practicing deep breathing to NOT wind myself into a knot as I prepare to welcome family into our home for Thanksgiving. I’m looking forward to seeing everyone. However, I am NOT looking forward to prepping food for 18 people for several meals. Luckily, everyone likes to pitch in. (And the teenagers may not like to pitch in, but they will when prompted.)

I’m not gonna lie- I purchased three bottles of wine for the celebration. 🙂

This weekend during a long drive, I listened to a FANTASTIC podcast episode from Kelly Corrigan Wonders. In it, Kelly and her guest Anna Quinlan, both of them best selling authors, share pieces they have written in honor of Thanksgiving. The episode is funny, thruthful, and full of great advice for preparing your heart and mind for Thanksgiving. I strongly recommend you listen… like while you are baking pies or scrubbing toilets or packing. 🙂

Like Kelly and Anna, I encourage you to have an attitude of gratitude and forgiveness (for yourself and your family) this Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Beware of book burning in America

Book burning is something that happened long ago, in Nazi Germany before WWII, so that Hitler could control what German people read and thought. Nothing like that would ever happen in America in the 21st century, right?

We’ll see.

Last week, in my home state of Virginia, two elected officials, members of the Sponsylvania County School Board, suggested that two books they found offensive should not just be removed from school libraries. They wanted them burned.

According to the Free Lance Star, board member Rabih Abuismail said, ““I think we should throw those books in a fire,” and board member Kirk Twigg, said he wants to “see the books before we burn them so we can identify within our community that we are eradicating this bad stuff.”

In the end, the board voted 6-0 to remove books with “sexually explicit” material from library shelves and discussed reviewing how books are chosen for school libraries. No burning has taken place – yet.

When I heard this story, a chill passed through me. Burning books? That’s what we are devolving to now? I understand that parents may have concerns about the content of books, and I respect that some people might be offended by the content of Toni Morrison’s Beloved or Salinger’s Catcher in the Rye. I’m all for transparency about book content and the freedom to choose alternatives. However, the recent rise in calls for book removal, and this specific instance of calling for book burning, have me very concerned about where we are heading in this country, and how politics is seeping into the once mundane and, dare I say, boring world of school board meetings.

Some history on book burning

In 1933, university students in towns across Germany burned over 25,000 books by Jewish and/or blacklisted authors: Sigmund Freud, Albert Einstein, Hellen Keller, Ernest Hemingway. At the time, the German minister of Public Enlightenment and Propaganda, Joseph Goebbels, told thousands of Germans that “the era of extreme Jewish intellectualism is now at an end. … The future German man will not just be a man of books, but a man of character. It is to this end that we want to educate you. … And thus you do well in this midnight hour to commit to the flames the evil spirit of the past.”

The American media expressed some shock, but one journalist, New York Herald Tribune columnist Walter Lippmann, took the book burnings as an ominous predictor of what was to come. He said, “”These acts symbolize the moral and intellectual character of the Nazi regime, for these bonfires are not the work of schoolboys or mobs but of the present German Government … The ominous symbolism of [this act and] these bonfires is that there is a government in Germany which means to teach its people that their salvation lies in violence.”

And so it did.

The Catcher in the Rye has had many challenges over the years

Books have been challenged and banned for a long time. Visit the American Library Association’s website to see books that have been frequently challenged and why. (I was shocked to learn from this page that as recently as 2001, books by J.R.R. Tolkein were burned in New Mexico because they were deemed “satanic”!) What’s new is the coordinated effort behind the removal of materials. We’re hearing stories about challenges across the country in places like Texas and Kansas. There were even calls for removal of materials at the last school board meeting in my own little old Wythe County.

According to Nora Pelizzari, a spokeswoman at the National Coalition Against Censorship, “What has taken us aback this year is the intensity with which school libraries are under attack.” She added that the apparent coordination of the effort sets it apart: “Particularly when taken in concert with the legislative attempts to control school curricula, this feels like a more overarching attempt to purge schools of materials that people disagree with. It feels different than what we’ve seen in recent years.” (From The Washington Post)

What concerns me

The world is very different now compared to 1933. Books are ubiquitous and come in many forms – paperback, e-book, audiobook. Posts about books fill Instagram and Twitter. Tik Tok videos promote books via Book-Tok. I’m not worried that we won’t have access to books. I’m worried about the mindset behind the desire to limit access.

Choosing to review, and perhaps even restrict books. for sexually explicit content is one thing. Although, I must point out there is more sex, as well as violence, profanity, and nudity, on the Internet than in any book. Also, books usually present edgy content in context – showing how characters are influenced and affected by it. You often don’t get context on social media. But, you can’t take down You Tube, much less burn it. So people are targeting something tangible – books.

Unfortunately, I doubt this line will end with “sexually explicit” books. In October, a lawmaker in Texas started an investigation into books that “contain material that might make students feel discomfort, guilt, anguish, or any other form of psychological distress because of their race or sex or convey that a student, by virtue of their race or sex, is inherently racist, sexist, or oppressive, whether consciously or unconsciously.” That’s getting into very gray, and very political, water.

And we, my fellow book lovers, need to be paying attention. We can take inspiration from Helen Keller. When she learned university students in Germany were planning on burning her books, she wrote an open letter to them that said:

Have you heard of any calls for book burning? What do you think of the current enthusiasm behind reviewing school materials?

Thanks for getting nerdy with me!