Do More of What You Love

Here’s why we still need brick and mortar book stores: the cool bookish gifts in the front. My current favorite items from Barnes and Noble are magnets with literary and inspiring quotes on them. I have a stack, and each month I put a new one on the fridge.

Here’s the September selection:

Happy

 

I love this quote because it gives me permission to indulge in the things that fill my spirit: reading, writing, photography.  I’m a big list maker, but frequently my to do lists don’t include anything that I love, just things I have to get done. At the end of the day, I know I’ve been productive, but my spirit is sapped.

Lately, I’ve been trying a new approach: include the things that make me happy on the to do list. Crazy, I know! Or better yet, do what makes me happy first, before tackling the list. Guess what? My attitude about folding underwear and paying bills improves immensely after I allow myself thirty minutes to write, read, or observe the world through my camera.

Here’s a powerful quote from Entrepreneur and Leadership Mentor Michael Hyatt:

You must schedule the important things so they don’t get crowded out by the urgent things.

By important, he means the things that promote personal growth and strengthen relationships. Creativity and innovation. The things that matter. This does not include sweeping the mud room or scrubbing toilets. Those are, depending on the size and activity level of your family, the urgent things.

I’m getting better about telling myself, “Don’t fret about the laundry. It will always be there. Even twenty minutes from now.”

What are the things that you love, and how do you make time for them each day?

Thanks for getting thoughtful with me.

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Is Atavism?

I’m almost done with All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr, and I can’t rave enough about this book. Fantastic writing, beautiful description, excellent pacing. I know you’ve probably read plenty of books about WWII, but trust me, you can’t skip this one.

I keep a note card tucked inside my hardback copy of this novel so that I can jot down words I don’t know. Believe me, I’ve found plenty.

If you like learning about words, visit Kathy at Bermuda Onion for Wondrous Words Wednesday. You can comment on other people’s words and add your own in a blog post.

Here’s the quote for my Wondrous Word of the week:

Werner keeps to the center of the group as it strings out, his heart beating in dark confusion, wondering where Frederick is, why they’re chasing this boy, and what they’re supposed to do if they catch him.
Except in some atavistic part of his brain, he knows exactly what they’ll do.

Atavism \ˈa-tə-ˌvi-zəm\noun from the Latin atavus, ancestor

  • recurrence in an organism of a trait or character typical of an ancestral form and usually due to genetic recombination
  • recurrence of or reversion to a past style, manner, outlook, approach, or activity
  • adjective = atavistic – reverting to a past outlook, activity, approach

This quote comes from a scene of bullying encouraged by warped (Nazi) school administrators. I guess Werner has experienced the “pack mentality” of aggression and knows what to expect.

Word Nerd Workout

wondrous memeUse atavism/ atavistic in a sentence. This is a tough one for me.

Fashion rotates through atavistic cycles of style. The geometric prints in stores today remind me of the 80’s.

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Thanks for getting nerdy with me today!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

Three Great Books You Should Read

I give in, summer is over. But I did manage to read several books over the past few months that I’d like to tell you about.

The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

Rosie ProjectI’ve wanted to read this book for a long time because my daughter is named Rosie. Even though she’s not much like her namesake character, The Rosie Project was a good pick. Don, a super intelligent college professor, likes organization, schedules, and lists, and he has developed a questionnaire to help him find a wife. A very detailed questionnaire.  Enter Rosie, a spirited red-head who is about to disrupt Don’s structured life.

This novel works well because Simsion never slips out of Don’s distinct and hilarious voice. At times, because Don’s view of the world is so peculiar, he becomes a somewhat unreliable narrator, leaving the reader to make inferences about what is actually going on. Very fun, with a few thoughtful insights on human behavior. Fans of Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory should definitely read this book.

Me Before You by Jo Jo Moyes

me before youThe writing style and main character of Me Before You are so fun and easy, you start off the novel thinking it will be a whimsical read. You’d be wrong. In Me Before You, Moyes explores a difficult subject- assisted suicide- with a delicate balance of thoughtfulness and humor. Her characters feel real, imperfect, and compelling. Louisa, the main character, deals difficult family members, a self-absorbed boyfriend, and a job that ultimately challenges her moral beliefs.

Moyes adeptly describes the life of a quadriplegic spinal cord patient.  I also admire how she covers the various arguments for and against assisted suicide without ever falling down on one side – she is simply making the reader more aware of a complicated issue. I cried a little, but it’s worth your time.

The Forgotten Garden by Kate Morton

The Forgotten GardenThis novel blends historical fiction and mystery with a dash of fairy tale. When Cassandra’s grandmother dies, Cassandra inherits a mysterious sea-side cottage her grandmother never mentioned owning. Cassandra’s investigation into the history of the cottage sends her deep into her grandmother’s past, unveiling multiple family secrets and tragedies.

Morten’s writing is lovely, and she beautifully weaves a complicated story line using characters in multiple places and times. Many people say The Forgotten Garden is their favorite book. I enjoyed it, but it’s not my favorite of the year.  It got long, and sometimes, I couldn’t connect with the actions and emotions of the main characters.

 

The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins

Girl on the TrainI listened to the audiobook of The Girl on the Train, and I’m gonna boldly say that I’m the only person on the Internet who did not like it. The narrative alternates point of view between three women but spends the most time with Rachel, a fumbling alcoholic who is struggling to get over her ex-husband and remember exactly what she did on a hot night in August when she came home with a cut on her scalp.

The Girl on the Train has all the makings of a good thriller- a disappearance, missing information, suspicious men- but I didn’t like any of the characters, especially the pathetic Rachel, who dominates the story. The writing was okay,and at times the plot dragged (I got tired of hearing about Rachel screwing up, yet again). I’m not much for thrillers, but I liked Gone Girl better, even with its ridiculous last third of impossible twists. Actually, the thriller I recommend is the YA novel We Were Liars by E. Lockhart.  The writing is superb and the twist completely unexpected, although it did leave me feeling a bit cheated.

What did you read over the summer?  Can you add any recommendations to this list?  

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Thanks for stopping by!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

What Does Smarmy Mean?

Wondrous Words Wednesday

fall leavesI can’t deny it, fall is here. I’ve got beautiful red leaves on my driveway and must wear long pants when I walk the dogs each morning. But I want to give one last nod to summer with my Wondrous Words Wednesday word this week. It came up at a boat dock: smarmy.

If you’re curious about words, join in the Wondrous Words Wednesday meme with Kathy from Bermuda Onion. Share a new word you’ve learned or highlight a favorite. There are plenty of nerds out there who will appreciate your contribution!

Now, back to the lake. My friend Chris said she has to bleach the seats of her pontoon boat because they get “smarmy” under the cover, meaning they get moldy in the damp space without air circulation. For the record, I wasn’t the only one intrigued when she threw out the word “smarmy”. Of course, I looked it up.

Smarmy \’smär-mē\ adjective from English smarm, to gush or slobber

  • Marked by a smug, ingratiating false earnestness (a smarmy salesman)
  • Of low sleazy taste or quality (a smarmy adult bookstore)

Chris was surprised smarmy is actually a word, and these definitions don’t exactly fit her use, which I took to mean as “yucky”.  I can see how “yucky” might come from the second meaning, but there is nothing about Chris or her boat that is sleazy.

Word Nerd Workout

Use smarmy in a sentence.

Priscilla dodged the smarmy man on the street corner who was selling watches from inside his coat pocket.

Don’t forget to visit Kathy at Bermuda Onion.

Have you ever heard smarmy before?  

Thanks for getting nerdy with me today!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do You Daydream Enough?

iPodI made my kids angry, again.

This time it was during a road trip, when I insisted upon DFT- device free time.  I thought if I gave it an acronym, it would sound cooler.  No luck.

You see, several things  have caused me to worry that in this era of ever present entertainment via electronic devices my family isn’t daydreaming enough.  Things like:

  1. The hubby used to read before bed.  Now he plays Dream League soccer on his iPhone while I read.  Ok, sometimes he reads the news.
  2. My eldest used to read books in the car during the commute to soccer practice.  Now he plays Dream League soccer on his iPhone.  Or checks Instagram for soccer videos.
  3. I’m currently reading All the Light We Cannot See.  (Fantastic so far.)  One of the main characters, a boy named Werner, is always tinkering, taking apart radios, seeking knowledge.  Often, when my kids have free time, they want to play Xbox.
  4. This is the most important: The Bored and Brilliant series on Note To Self.  Host Manoush Zomorodi shares my concern that our society’s attachment to devices is crushing creativity.  Instead of imagining, we’re placating our minds with pointless busy- ness.  (Read: FB scrolling).

NoteToSelf_1400X1400Note to Self created a multi-step challenge to encourage people to put down their phones and indulge in boredom.  Exercises included a ban on picture taking (just experience the moment!) and deleting the most time consuming app on your phone.  Manoush also recommended an app, called Moment, that monitors how often you unlock your phone and how much time you spend on it each day.   Disturbing information, let me tell you.

With all this in mind, over the summer I developed my own Bored and Brilliant challenge:  DFT. The idea is to get the devices out of all of our hands for a while so  we can use our brains for a higher purpose than liking photos on Instagram.  Know what happened during DFT?  My kids scowled.  But, they also interacted more with me and each other.  Board games came out.  Reading resumed.

I’ve also tried to create more tech margin for myself, which means only checking email and FB at certain times of day (over lunch, waiting at soccer practice) and protecting my time for reading, writing, and other noble pursuits.

GollumHowever, all isn’t a perfect Word Nerd haven.  The kids ALWAYS glare when I mention DFT. They clutch their little devices like Gollum clutches the One Ring.  (another sign that they need separation).  And too often, I forget to enact DFT (the goal was 2 hours every day this summer – didn’t happen). Or, I don’t have the energy to fight with them.  Finally, there are fine details to negotiate, like is it OK for daughter to have her iPod during DFT if she’s just listening to music?

Sigh.  As daughter often says, the struggle is real.

I’m comforted by knowing that I’m not the only one struggling with technology limits.  Just this week, two of my blogging friends posted about the battle with the Internet and electronic devices.  We all wrote about this topic without consulting each other.  To me, that’s a clue this is serious business.  For more perspectives on the technology dilemma visit

Thank you ladies for your inspiration.  🙂

How do you set technology limits for yourself and your family?  When do you daydream?  

Thanks for stopping by!

Julia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Is Scatological Humor?

In a review of Tom Anglebeger’s book The Qwikpick Papers: Poop Fountain, Goodreads member Barb Middleton said,

Give kids books on poop, gas, or burps and they laugh hysterically. Most adults scratch their heads at this scatological humor.

She goes on to explain that kids love scatological humor, and that if it gets them excited about books, we adults shouldn’t turn up our noses.

I agree with her, although I must admit that I’m thankful my kids didn’t need Captain Underpants to encourage reading. More importantly, I wanted to learn more about “scatological”.

If you’re interested in unusual words too, join the Wondrous Words Wednesday meme with Kathy of Bermuda Onion. Comment on words you find there, and add your own post to the mix. It’s fun, and a great way to expand your vocabulary.

Scatology \sca·tol·o·gy\ noun from the Greek skat-, skōr excrement; akin to Old English scearn dung, Latin muscerdae mouse droppings

  • Interest in obscene matters especially in literature
  • The biological study of excrement (especially for taxonomic purposes or the determination of diet)

I should have guessed this origin! I have heard animal excrement referred to as “scat”.

Word Nerd Workout

wondrous memeFirst, how do you feel the use of scatological humor in children’s books? Does humor based on bodily functions have a place in literature? Also, can you think of other examples of books that use scatological humor? The Artemis Fowl series has some scatological references that my boys enjoy, including a dwarf who tunnels by eating dirt and then experiences severe digestive repercussions.

Don’t forget to visit Kathy at Bermuda Onion.

Thanks for getting nerdy with me today!

Julia