Why You Should Choose a Holiday Motto

I have a confession to make: part of me dreads Christmas.  I hear the opening lines of “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year”, and I think, No, it’s not.  For me, the mother of four, Christmas means work.  Thinking of presents, buying the presents, hiding the presents, wrapping the presents.  And that’s just for the kids.  What about friends, extended family, coworkers and teachers?  It’s overwhelming.  Especially when you’re a person who doesn’t like stuff or shopping.

ChristmasI hate the fact that inflatable snow men start popping up around Halloween, and the local pop station plays nothing but the same 30 holiday songs from the day after Thanksgiving until December 26th.  I hate that the focus has shifted from the gift of a savior and peace on earth to Black Friday deals and endless consumption.

And then there’s the memory of moving my mother into a nursing home on a December day 23 years ago and of her death a few weeks later.  “Have a Holly Jolly Christmas” makes me cry because back then it was the only thing that made her laugh, and I will always listen to “Oh Holy Night”, Mom’s favorite Christmas carol, with tears streaming down my cheeks.

So when husband asked if we wanted to put up Christmas decorations on the Sunday after Thanksgiving, I said no. I wasn’t there, mentally, physically or spiritually.

Happier podcastBut shortly thereafter, I listened to episode 196 of the “Happier” podcast, one of my favorites.  Host Gretchen Rubin suggested that listeners choose a holiday motto by picking word or phrase to guide their experience of the holiday season and focus their attention on what is important.  One of her listeners chose “Comfort and joy”, and will center her holiday activities and gifts on this theme.  Rubin chose “ ’tis the season to be jolly”, because, as a somewhat “Type A” personality, Rubin often gets irritable and snappish, especially when busy.  Her sister Elizabeth Craft chose “all is calm, all is bright” to remind her that everything is good and to just go with the flow over the holidays.

I loved this idea.  As soon as I heard it, I felt relieved.  If I can frame my experience of the holidays with a motto, I can participate meaningfully in the season and not just react to it.  And if my motto is from a song, so much the better.  Words set to music are easier for me to remember and pull up for inspiration.

I chose my motto from a lesser known Christmas song, one a talented young lady sings almost every year at our church.  “Be Born in Me”, by Francesca Battistelli, describes Mary’s reaction upon learning she is to bear God’s son.  The opening lines of the song, “Everything inside me cries for order/ everything inside me wants to hide” cut to my soul.  I relate too well to the doubt and inadequacy expressed in the lyrics of this song.  Mary pleads, “Somehow help me see with heaven’s eyes” and finally, in the chorus, “Be born in me.”  She’s asking for God to fill her, not just with the physical presence of the baby Jesus, but with all consuming faith.

My holiday motto, “Be born in me”, reminds me to clear my heart of worry and stress so that it can be filled with faith.  I, too, want to see with heaven’s eyes.

Now I pass on Rubin’s suggestion to you.  Whether you love everything Christmas, right down to the Elf on the Shelf, or the holidays bring stress and sadness, choose a holiday motto to frame your experience of the season. It can be gratitude or service, fun or family, “Let it snow” or “Goodwill to men.”

However you celebrate, and whatever you celebrate, I wish you, and this world, peace.

How do you plan to experience the holidays this year?

Thanks for getting thoughtful with me,

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Find a Great Book: Goodreads Choice Awards

Goodreads Choice AwardsYou know when you read an award winning book and you think, Why did this win awards?  It’s depressing, disturbing, and generally disappointing?  That won’t happen to you with the Goodreads Choice Awards.  Only real people, I mean readers, choose the winners via several rounds of voting.  The the final round of voting for the best books of 2018 is going on now until November 26, so you should hop on over to Goodreads and cast your vote.

 

And even if you don’t want to vote, this is a great place to find your next read.

The categories include fiction, historical fiction, memoir, young adult, middle grade, and new this year, “Best of the Best”.  All of the books in that category are fabulous (The Help, The Hate U Give, The Nightingale,  The Fault in Our Stars), but I had to give my vote to All the Light We Cannot See.  

Two of my favorites from 2018, Tell Me More and The Unforgettable Guinevere St. Claire (which made it into the semi-finals as a write in –yay for grass roots campaigns) did not get to the final round of voting, but that’s okay.  They are still awesome, and I still am finding great titles to add to my TBR and Book Club suggestion list.

So, if you are looking for great books to give as gifts, or an escape from holiday madness, I highly recommend the Goodreads Choice Awards.  Let me know if you find something good.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Raise Strong Readers

With the holidays approaching, here’s a little Word Nerd reminder about the importance of reading with kids.  Perhaps you can include books on gift lists, or use family time to encourage reading.  The following slide show from the Harvard Graduate School of Education outlines strategies to get kids reading and keep them reading into their teen years.  I hope you find this resource helpful and that you will share it!

What techniques have you found helpful to encourage kids to read?
Thanks for getting nerdy with me,

Young Women, Use Your Vote

Next Tuesday is Election Day, and thank goodness women earned the right to vote almost 100 years ago.  I’m not about to pass up my opportunity to influence policy about health care, immigration, gun laws, and trade.  However, apparently, that might have something to do with the fact that I’m over 40.  Younger women, those aged 18-35, aren’t so interested in voting.  In fact, a recent poll by Refinery 29 and CBS News found that only 30% of young women plan to vote in the midterm elections in November.

Representatives from the American Association of University Women had a voter registration table set up outside our local community college library in September.  When I asked them how it was going, they told me a lot of the young ladies they reached out to either waved them off or wouldn’t make eye contact.

I was shocked.  Now?  At this time, with this president, women aren’t interested in voting?

It disturbed me, so I did some research.  Turns out that young women are disillusioned and disinterested in politics for several reasons.  Many say they are too busy, or they don’t like the candidates, or they are tired of the negativity in politics.  They want to know about the good things candidates have done in positions of power, not just hear about what everyone has done wrong.

Women want better information, especially about state and local candidates, at a time when local journalism is declining and many people are getting their news via social media, which tends to cover national politics.  Many young people care about politics but think they have more influence volunteering or donating to a cause or candidate, or by posting their political views on social media.

Sharing a political post might get people talking and thinking, but voting is the clearest, most influential way to make a difference in a democracy.

In this mid-term election, seats in the US Senate and the House of Representatives are up for grabs.  The outcome of those races could affect the balance of power in the federal government by influencing which party has the majority in the House and the Senate.  Senators confirm lifetime judicial appointments, not just to the Supreme Court, but other lower courts as well.

Politicians at the state and federal level are debating and discussing policy about health care, taxes, and trade agreements, policy that could have a direct impact on how much we pay for food and other goods as well as our access to medical care and how much we pay for it.

Then there are the issues of education, abortion, immigration, and the environment.  We really can’t afford to sit out of the debate.  We all need to be informed, and we all need to make our wants known by casting a vote.

I, too, get annoyed with the negativity and partisanship in political coverage.  But I spend a little time each week scanning national and local sources to gather enough information about policies to understand the basics of what is going on in this country.   I urge you to do the same, especially if you are a young woman or if you know one.

In her novel The Hate U Give, Angie Thomas sends an important message to readers:

“What’s the point of having a voice if you’re gonna be silent in those moments you shouldn’t be?”

Let’s not be silent.  Let’s use our voice and our vote at times when it matters, and let’s encourage our fellow citizens to do the same.

Do you plan on voting on November 6?  Why or why not?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why You Must Read The Handmaid’s Tale

Although it was written in the mid 1980’s, The Handmaid’s Tale is incredibly relevant for our time. Ever since the Hulu series started, I’ve been wanting to read the novel; it felt like a “necessary classic” for my reading repertoire. I finally listened to the audio version, excellently narrated by Claire Danes, and oh my goodness, the quality of Margaret Atwood’s writing and the intelligence of her observations inspires some serious thinking. In The Handmaid’s Tale, Atwood creates a dystopian world that is disturbingly plausible.

Premise

The Handmaid's Tale

The Handmaid’s Tale is set in a post modern time in the Republic of Gilead. The government has been overthrown and a conservative religious sect has established a new social order based on fear. Women are no longer allowed to read, work, or have money; they are only valued for their ability to reproduce. Because of rampant infertility caused by toxic waste, fertile young women are abducted and sent to training centers to prepare for their new role as surrogate mothers for powerful families. Their identities are destroyed, and they must wear white head coverings that hide their faces.

What I liked

Atwood’s story is intense not just because of its content and themes, but also because of its vivid descriptions. Through the narration of the protagonist Offred, Atwood’s fictional world feels disturbingly real. (We never learn “Offred’s real name. The authorities have changed her identity based on the name of the man she has been assigned to. Atwood also suggests “Offred” could be perceived as “offered”, like an offering or sacrifice for religious purposes.) Here is how Offred describes how she feels in this strange new social structure:

“I am like a room where things once happened and now nothing does, except the pollen of the weeds that grow up outside the window, blowing in as dust across the floor.”

Also, Offred describes a “salvaging” – a public execution, cleverly dubbed “particicution” by the authorities, to make all of the observers feel involved:

“The three bodies hang there, even with the white sacks over their heads looking curiously stretched, like chickens strung up by the necks in a meatshop window; like birds with their wings clipped, like flightless birds, wrecked angels.”

Atwood uses her exemplary writing skill to explore important themes, most prominently the role of women in society. In the Republic of Gilead, sensuality is stifled in reaction to “the old ways”, when promiscuity and pornography prevailed. The “Aunts”, older women armed with electrified cattle prods to train the handmaids, tell Offred and the other women that the past was a time of “freedom to” whereas the present is a time of “freedom from”. Women no longer have to fear sexual assault, but they also have no independence.

The great power of The Handmaid’s Tale is the eerie familiarity of its plot. Offred describes the gradual take over of the country. There wasn’t paper money anymore; all transactions were computer based. Offred thinks that made the takeover easier. The tyrants seizing power blamed the coup on Islamic fanatics, and then they suspended the Constitution. She says, “Newspapers were censored and some were closed down, for security reasons they said. The roadblocks began to appear, and Identipasses. Everyone approved of that, since it was obvious you couldn’t be too careful.” All of these conditions sound much too much like actual events from our headlines.

My alarm increased while listening to Atwood’s afterward, which she composed sometime after the 2016 election. Atwood explains that she set out rules for herself when sitting down to write The Handmaid’s Tale. She would not put anything in the book that hadn’t already occurred in what “James Joyce called ‘the nightmare of history’”. She drew upon historic events (slavery, polygamy, child abductions by Argentinian generals, the actions for Hitler’s SS squad) and her experiences traveling behind the Iron Curtain to create her story. So, not only could these things happen, in some places in the world, they already have.

Atwood says, “Anything can happen anywhere, depending on the circumstances.”
The Handmaid’s Tale is a call for awareness of history, of modern politics, of modern beliefs.

What I didn’t like

The story can be a bit depressing at times, but I believe it fits the themes and tone of the book.

Recommendation

The Handmaid’s Tale is particularly important for women to read, especially in light of the current political climate and the #metoo movement. Women’s issues are at the forefront of our culture; The Handmaid’s Tale prompts thoughtful consideration of where we have been and where we need to go.

Notes on content

There is suggestive content and some violence, but nothing too graphic.

Have you read The Handmaid’s Tale? What did you think? I really like Atwood’s writing and would like to read another one of her books. Can you recommend one?

Happy reading!